Why Do I Feel Like an Alien?
Understanding the patterns behind this experience
← All QuestionsFeeling alien comes from never having the shared experiences others take for granted. When they reminisce about happy childhoods and you remember survival, when they assume safety and you assume threat—you are literally living in different realities. Normal is their language; trauma is yours. This gap creates the sense that you do not belong on this planet, that you are watching from elsewhere, that you will never quite fit.
Living as alien means isolation in company, feeling misunderstood even when people try, accepting that you see things differently.
Finding your planet means seeking others who share your experience, who understand without translation, who also feel like aliens.
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Content informed by trauma research, polyvagal theory (Stephen Porges), somatic experiencing (Peter Levine), and nervous system regulation studies. For comprehensive citations and further reading, see Unfiltered Wisdom: The Book.
About the Author
Robert Greene is the author and founder of Unfiltered Wisdom, a US Navy veteran, and a trauma survivor with over 10 years of experience in nervous system regulation and somatic healing. He is certified in Yoga for Meditation from the Yogic School of Mystic Arts (Dharamsala, India, 2016) and affiliated with Holistic Veterans, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit serving veterans in Santa Cruz, California.
Research References
This content draws from peer-reviewed research and clinical frameworks:
Primary Research
- Van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score. PubMed
- Porges, S.W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory. Google Scholar
- Felitti, V.J. et al. (1998). ACE Study. CDC