Fearing romance means avoiding the vulnerability that relationship requires, expecting betrayal from those who claim to love you, keeping part of yourself protected even in closeness. You want love but cannot risk the danger it represents.
Living romance-averse means missing connection you crave, accepting isolation because closeness feels too threatening.
Safe romance means finding love that does not require self-abandonment, intimacy that allows boundaries, connection that includes your protection.
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Content informed by trauma research, polyvagal theory (Stephen Porges), somatic experiencing (Peter Levine), and nervous system regulation studies. For comprehensive citations and further reading, see Unfiltered Wisdom: The Book.
About the Author
Robert Greene is the author and founder of Unfiltered Wisdom, a US Navy veteran, and a trauma survivor with over 10 years of experience in nervous system regulation and somatic healing. He is certified in Yoga for Meditation from the Yogic School of Mystic Arts (Dharamsala, India, 2016) and affiliated with Holistic Veterans, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit serving veterans in Santa Cruz, California.