Being too much means constantly monitoring yourself, restricting your range, apologizing for your natural way of being. When your intensity was met with withdrawal, when your depth was called heavy, when your passion was labeled dramaticâyou learned to dim yourself. Now you hold back, edit yourself, become someone who fits rather than someone who is. You might be told to calm down, to not take things so seriously, to be lessâmessages that taught you your natural self was unacceptable.
Living as too much means feeling like you have to hold back to be accepted, like your full self is a burden, like you must apologize for taking up space that others occupy without thought. You become someone who asks for less than you need, who makes yourself convenient, who disappears into what others want.
Reclaiming your full self means finding people who have room for all of you, who are not overwhelmed by your intensity. You practice being fully yourself with safe others, discovering that your too-muchness is actually just right for the right people.
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Content informed by trauma research, polyvagal theory (Stephen Porges), somatic experiencing (Peter Levine), and nervous system regulation studies. For comprehensive citations and further reading, see Unfiltered Wisdom: The Book.
About the Author
Robert Greene is the author and founder of Unfiltered Wisdom, a US Navy veteran, and a trauma survivor with over 10 years of experience in nervous system regulation and somatic healing. He is certified in Yoga for Meditation from the Yogic School of Mystic Arts (Dharamsala, India, 2016) and affiliated with Holistic Veterans, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit serving veterans in Santa Cruz, California.