Mourning the living comes from recognizing what you did not get. You see other people's parents and feel a pang you cannot name. You watch families function and feel a loss for something you never had. You are not mourning death; you are mourning absence, the ghost of what should have been haunting what was.
Living with ambiguous grief means grief without closure, mourning without ritual, a sadness that others do not recognize because no one died.
Honoring the grief means allowing yourself to mourn what you did not get, to grieve parents who are still walking around, to recognize your loss as real.
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Content informed by trauma research, polyvagal theory (Stephen Porges), somatic experiencing (Peter Levine), and nervous system regulation studies. For comprehensive citations and further reading, see Unfiltered Wisdom: The Book.
About the Author
Robert Greene is the author and founder of Unfiltered Wisdom, a US Navy veteran, and a trauma survivor with over 10 years of experience in nervous system regulation and somatic healing. He is certified in Yoga for Meditation from the Yogic School of Mystic Arts (Dharamsala, India, 2016) and affiliated with Holistic Veterans, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit serving veterans in Santa Cruz, California.