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Why Do I Overreact

Understanding the patterns behind this experience

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Why Do I Overreact

Short Answer

It feels like being stuck in quicksand, unable to move or breathe. You can start by breathe in deeply, hold for 4 seconds, then exhale slowly through your nose. repeat three times..

What This Means

It feels like being stuck in quicksand, unable to move or breathe. Your heart races with a primal urgency, your gut tightens into a knot of fear and panic. Your jaw clenchs so hard it hurts, as if trying to hold on to the last shred of control.

Why This Happens

You've lived through situations where flight or fight was necessary for survival. Your nervous system got programmed with this response - to overreact - because it meant increasing your chances of getting out alive when you thought you were in immediate danger.

What Can Help

  • Try right now: Breathe in deeply, hold for 4 seconds, then exhale slowly through your nose. Repeat three times.
  • Press a warm compress to the back of your neck or chest to relax tense muscles.
  • Stand up and take a few large strides, feeling the impact of each foot on the ground as if running away from danger.
  • Close your eyes and imagine yourself in a safe place - somewhere that feels completely secure and protected.
  • Gently massage your jaw with your fingers, moving it side to side to release any tension.

When to Seek Support

If you find you're unable to control your reactions even when the situation isn't life-threatening, or if these feelings cause significant distress in your daily life, it might be time to talk to someone who can help. Consider speaking with a therapist or counselor trained in trauma work.

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Research References

This content is grounded in scientific research on trauma and nervous system regulation:

  • Van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Viking.
  • Porges, S. W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation. W. W. Norton.
  • Felitti, V. J., et al. (1998). "Relationship of childhood abuse and household dysfunction to many of the leading causes of death in adults." American Journal of Preventive Medicine, 14(4), 245-258. (ACE Study)
  • Levine, P. (2010). In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness. North Atlantic Books.

Note: This content is educational and for informational purposes. It is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health care.

Robert Greene

About the Author

Robert Greene is the author and founder of Unfiltered Wisdom, a US Navy veteran, and a trauma survivor with over 10 years of experience in nervous system regulation and somatic healing. He is certified in Yoga for Meditation from the Yogic School of Mystic Arts (Dharamsala, India, 2016) and affiliated with Holistic Veterans, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit serving veterans in Santa Cruz, California.

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