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Why Am I Always Anxious

Understanding the patterns behind this experience

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Why Am I Always Anxious

Short Answer

Feeling like you're always anxious can be likened to being trapped in a car with no brakes. You can start by take deep, slow breaths through your nose for 4 seconds, hold them for 7 seconds, and exhale slowly through...

What This Means

Feeling like you're always anxious can be likened to being trapped in a car with no brakes. Your heart races, your gut feels frozen, and your jaw clenches tightly. Every thought becomes a sharp edge slicing through your mind.

Why This Happens

Your nervous system has developed this specific pattern as a survival mechanism. When you feel threatened or unsafe, it triggers a fight-or-flight response, preparing your body for action. Over time, this can become an automatic reaction even when there's no real threat, keeping you in a constant state of alert and anxiety.

What Can Help

  • Try right now: Take deep, slow breaths through your nose for 4 seconds, hold them for 7 seconds, and exhale slowly through your mouth for 8 seconds. This helps reset your nervous system.
  • Press your palms against a wall or any hard surface. The physical resistance can help ground you and reduce feelings of anxiety.
  • Stare at a stationary object like the tip of your nose. Focusing on a single point can help distract your mind from anxious thoughts.
  • Imagine yourself in a safe, comfortable place. Engage all your senses to fully immerse yourself in this scene.
  • Move your body in any way you like for 30 seconds - dance, run in place, or do jumping jacks. Physical activity releases endorphins that can ease anxiety.

When to Seek Support

If your anxiety feels overwhelming and disrupts your daily life, it's important to reach out for support from a therapist or counselor who specializes in trauma-informed care. They can provide tools and strategies tailored to your specific needs.

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Research References

This content is grounded in scientific research on trauma and nervous system regulation:

  • Van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Viking.
  • Porges, S. W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation. W. W. Norton.
  • Felitti, V. J., et al. (1998). "Relationship of childhood abuse and household dysfunction to many of the leading causes of death in adults." American Journal of Preventive Medicine, 14(4), 245-258. (ACE Study)
  • Levine, P. (2010). In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness. North Atlantic Books.

Note: This content is educational and for informational purposes. It is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health care.

Robert Greene

About the Author

Robert Greene is the author and founder of Unfiltered Wisdom, a US Navy veteran, and a trauma survivor with over 10 years of experience in nervous system regulation and somatic healing. He is certified in Yoga for Meditation from the Yogic School of Mystic Arts (Dharamsala, India, 2016) and affiliated with Holistic Veterans, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit serving veterans in Santa Cruz, California.

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