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How Do I Talk About Deployment

Understanding the patterns behind this experience

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How Do I Talk About Deployment

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You can start by take slow, deep breaths through your nose and out through your mouth, inhaling for a count of four, holding for a count of seven, and exhaling for a count of eight. this helps calm your nervous...

What This Means

It feels like being thrown into a bottomless pit, your heart pounding so loud it echoes in your ears, and you can't catch your breath. Your gut is twisted into knots, making it hard to swallow or think clearly. Your jaw tightens into an unyielding grip, as if fighting off something unseen.

Why This Happens

Your body has evolved to protect you from perceived threats. Deployment activates your fight-or-flight response, preparing you for danger. It's a survival mechanism designed to keep you alive in challenging situations, even if it means holding in intense emotions to focus on the task at hand.

What Can Help

  • Try right now: Take slow, deep breaths through your nose and out through your mouth, inhaling for a count of four, holding for a count of seven, and exhaling for a count of eight. This helps calm your nervous system and bring you back to the present.
  • Squeeze a stress ball or hold onto something comforting in your hands. Physical contact can help ground you and provide a sense of security.
  • Move your body in some way - take a brisk walk, do a few push-ups, or stretch out. Physical activity releases endorphins that can reduce stress and increase feelings of well-being.
  • Talk to someone who understands what you're going through. This doesn't mean sharing it with the world, just someone close who can offer a listening ear without judgment.
  • Listen to music or nature sounds. The soothing rhythms can help distract your mind from overwhelming thoughts and bring a sense of peace and calm.

When to Seek Support

If you find that deployment is causing you persistent physical or emotional distress, it's time to reach out for professional support. A therapist or counselor who specializes in trauma can provide guidance tailored to your specific needs.

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Research References

This content is grounded in scientific research on trauma and nervous system regulation:

  • Van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Viking.
  • Porges, S. W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation. W. W. Norton.
  • Felitti, V. J., et al. (1998). "Relationship of childhood abuse and household dysfunction to many of the leading causes of death in adults." American Journal of Preventive Medicine, 14(4), 245-258. (ACE Study)
  • Levine, P. (2010). In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness. North Atlantic Books.

Note: This content is educational and for informational purposes. It is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health care.

Robert Greene

About the Author

Robert Greene is the author and founder of Unfiltered Wisdom, a US Navy veteran, and a trauma survivor with over 10 years of experience in nervous system regulation and somatic healing. He is certified in Yoga for Meditation from the Yogic School of Mystic Arts (Dharamsala, India, 2016) and affiliated with Holistic Veterans, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit serving veterans in Santa Cruz, California.

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