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How Do I Feel Safe

Understanding the patterns behind this experience

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How Do I Feel Safe

Short Answer

You can start by take deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth for 60 seconds. focus on each inhale and exhale, grounding you in the present moment..

What This Means

When you ask 'How Do I Feel Safe,' your body might react with a surge of adrenaline, causing your heart to race and making your gut feel like it's frozen. Your jaw might clench, and you might feel like you're trapped in a car with no brakes.

Why This Happens

This specific pattern exists as a survival mechanism triggered by the fight-or-flight response. When you perceive danger or threat, your nervous system prepares you for action by boosting heart rate, diverting blood flow to muscles, and shutting down non-essential functions like digestion. This ensured our ancestors had the energy to escape predators.

What Can Help

  • Try right now: Take deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth for 60 seconds. Focus on each inhale and exhale, grounding you in the present moment.
  • Clench your fists for 15 seconds, then release. This physical tension can help shift your focus from potential threats to a sense of control.
  • Find a small object like a rock or stone and hold it tightly for 20 seconds. The tactile sensation can provide a sense of security and grounding.
  • Breathe into your solar plexus by imagining warm, soothing energy flowing through your chest cavity for 30 seconds. This can help calm the nervous system.
  • Move your body in a gentle, rhythmic way like walking or swaying. Physical activity can release tension and shift your focus from fear to movement.

When to Seek Support

If you find yourself frequently experiencing overwhelming feelings of safety, it might be time to speak with someone who can provide more structured support or help navigate potential triggers in your environment.

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Research References

This content is grounded in scientific research on trauma and nervous system regulation:

  • Van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Viking.
  • Porges, S. W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation. W. W. Norton.
  • Felitti, V. J., et al. (1998). "Relationship of childhood abuse and household dysfunction to many of the leading causes of death in adults." American Journal of Preventive Medicine, 14(4), 245-258. (ACE Study)
  • Levine, P. (2010). In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness. North Atlantic Books.

Note: This content is educational and for informational purposes. It is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health care.

Robert Greene

About the Author

Robert Greene is the author and founder of Unfiltered Wisdom, a US Navy veteran, and a trauma survivor with over 10 years of experience in nervous system regulation and somatic healing. He is certified in Yoga for Meditation from the Yogic School of Mystic Arts (Dharamsala, India, 2016) and affiliated with Holistic Veterans, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit serving veterans in Santa Cruz, California.

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