Boundary Setting After Trauma

By Rob Greene January 7, 2024 Relationship Skills

Trauma often teaches us that our boundaries don't matter. Whether through violation, neglect, or enmeshment, trauma survivors frequently struggle with knowing where they end and others begin.

In Unfiltered Wisdom, we explore how trauma impacts boundaries and how to rebuild them as a foundation for healing.

Understanding Boundaries

Boundaries are the limits that define where you end and others begin. They protect your physical space, emotional energy, time, and values.

Trauma's Impact on Boundaries

Trauma can create rigid boundaries (walls that keep everyone out) or porous boundaries (inability to say no or protect yourself). Both extremes prevent genuine connection.

Types of Boundaries

Physical, emotional, time, intellectual, and sexual boundaries all need attention in trauma recovery. Each type requires different skills and awareness.

Building Healthy Boundaries

Identify Your Limits: Know what feels comfortable and what doesn't.

Communicate Clearly: Express boundaries directly and respectfully.

Enforce Consistently: Follow through with consequences when boundaries are violated.

Adjust as Needed: Boundaries can change based on relationships and circumstances.

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