Emotional Intelligence Development After Trauma

Trauma doesn't just wound us emotionally—it disrupts our entire emotional intelligence system. The ability to recognize, understand, and manage emotions becomes compromised when survival takes priority over feeling.

In Unfiltered Wisdom, we explore how trauma fragments our emotional landscape and how we can rebuild emotional intelligence as a foundation for healing.

What is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional intelligence (EQ) encompasses self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills. Trauma can impair all these areas, leaving us disconnected from our emotions or overwhelmed by them.

Trauma's Impact on Emotional Intelligence

Trauma survivors often experience emotional numbing, difficulty identifying feelings, intense emotional reactivity, or a combination of these. The survival brain prioritizes safety over emotional nuance.

Rebuilding Emotional Intelligence

Recovery involves gradually expanding your emotional vocabulary, learning to tolerate uncomfortable feelings, and developing healthy emotional expression. This is a skill that can be learned and strengthened over time.

Practical Strategies

Emotion Naming: Practice identifying and naming your emotions throughout the day. Use an emotions wheel to expand your emotional vocabulary.

Feeling vs. Thinking: Learn to distinguish between thoughts and feelings. "I feel like you don't care" is a thought. "I feel sad" is a feeling.

Emotional Regulation: Develop tools for managing intense emotions without suppressing or being overwhelmed by them.

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